{"id":10038,"date":"2015-07-29T03:10:04","date_gmt":"2015-07-29T03:10:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tydaikho.com\/tin-tuc\/tinh-yeu\/tinh-yeu-hon-nhan\/9-dac-diem-tinh-cach-khien-ban-khong-bao-gio-thanh-cong\/"},"modified":"2015-07-29T03:10:04","modified_gmt":"2015-07-29T03:10:04","slug":"9-dac-diem-tinh-cach-khien-ban-khong-bao-gio-thanh-cong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/demo.vnno1.net\/index.php\/2015\/07\/29\/9-dac-diem-tinh-cach-khien-ban-khong-bao-gio-thanh-cong\/","title":{"rendered":"9 \u0111\u1eb7c \u0111i\u1ec3m t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec3m m\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 y\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd gi\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 m\u1ecdi m\u1eb7t.<\/p>\n

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T\u01b0 duy c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ti\u1ebfn s\u0129 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc Carol Dweck \u0111\u01b0a ra m\u1ed9t l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed1i l\u1eadp gi\u1eefa t\u01b0 duy ti\u1ebfn th\u1ee7 v\u00e0 t\u01b0 duy c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ecbnh. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ec9 tin r\u1eb1ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 t\u00e0i m\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f3 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ecdi v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1.<\/p>\n

M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 ch\u00ed ti\u1ebfn th\u1ee7 th\u00ec l\u1ea1i tin r\u1eb1ng, k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n qua s\u1ef1 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng v\u00ec h\u1ecd ki\u00ean tr\u00ec v\u00e0 s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 t\u01b0 duy b\u1ea3o th\u1ee7 th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00edch th\u00fa v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c nh\u01b0: \u0111i\u1ec3m s\u1ed1, ph\u1ea7n th\u01b0\u1edfng, ti\u1ec1n th\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u01b0ng khi h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1ed3i, h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i g\u1eb7p r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 ch\u00ed ti\u1ebfn th\u1ee7 th\u00ec h\u1ecd s\u1ebd coi nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 th\u1eed th\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecd c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n.<\/p>\n

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Ng\u1ea1o m\u1ea1n<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ng\u1ea1o m\u1ea1n th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1ecf ra bi\u1ebft t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3, v\u00ec th\u1ebf ch\u1eb3ng ai mu\u1ed1n gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 h\u1ecd c\u1ea3. V\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng m\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

Trong c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1eadt th\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng d\u1ec5 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng h\u01a1n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ng\u1ea1o m\u1ea1n. Trong cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch \u201cFreaknonomics\u201d, t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 c\u00f3 vi\u1ebft: Vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea1n th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng, m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 quy\u1ebft t\u00e2m t\u00ecm ra \u0111\u00e1p \u00e1n, s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ngh\u0129 b\u1ea1n th\u00f4ng minh.<\/p>\n

Kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch nghi<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ea1t r\u1ea5t d\u1ec5 th\u00edch nghi, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng duy tr\u00ec b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. H\u1ecd lu\u00f4n th\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n trong nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n. Vi\u1ec7c th\u00edch \u1ee9ng v\u1edbi m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u00e0 l\u00e3nh \u0111\u1ea1o, \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 ch\u00eca kh\u00f3a cho s\u1ef1 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng.<\/p>\n

N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00f3c nh\u00ecn c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ea1t lu\u00f4n nh\u1eadn tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m cho h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, d\u00f9 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ed1t thay x\u1ea5u, \u0111\u00fang hay sai. H\u1ecd nh\u1eadn to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho b\u1ea5t k\u00ec ai. C\u00f2n nh\u1eefng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00fd ch\u00ed lu\u00f4n t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho ai \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

Nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u Amy Morin \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd r\u1eb1ng, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 \u00fd ch\u00ed kh\u00f4ng d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian an \u1ee7i b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. Thay v\u00ec \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd sai v\u00e0 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi c\u00e1c th\u1eed th\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

B\u1ed1c \u0110\u1ed3ng<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u00ecn l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng s\u1eeda n\u00f3. Vi\u1ec7c nh\u1eadn ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng quan tr\u1ecdng. Vi\u1ec7c ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n ti\u00ean quy\u1ebft cho s\u1ef1 th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ea1t.<\/p>\n

C\u1ea7u to\u00e0n<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u1ea7u to\u00e0n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c s\u1ee3 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n g\u1eb7p r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i khi \u0111\u01b0a ra quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh hay h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng.<\/p>\n

Ti\u1ebfn s\u1ef9 Alice Boyes cho r\u1eb1ng, vi\u1ec7c qu\u00e1 c\u1ea7u to\u00e0n c\u00f3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ef1c t\u1ee9c khi m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u01b0 \u00fd, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00e2m tr\u00ed v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u01b0a ra quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01b0\u1edbng<\/strong><\/p>\n

Vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01b0\u1edbng tr\u00ean l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau th\u1ef1c. Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng, hay vi\u1ebft ra gi\u1ea5y th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng h\u01a1n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ec9 gi\u1eef n\u00f3 trong \u0111\u1ea7u. V\u00ed d\u1ee5, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00ean k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch \u201cgi\u1ea3m 5 c\u00e2n\u201d thay v\u00ec \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n ch\u1ec9 ngh\u0129 trong \u0111\u1ea7u r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh s\u1ebd \u201cgi\u1ea3m c\u00e2n\u201d, b\u1ea1n n\u00ean bi\u1ebft ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c m\u00ecnh c\u1ea7n g\u00ec.<\/p>\n

Thi\u1ebfu nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n<\/strong><\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng v\u1ecb tr\u00ed cao trong kinh doanh. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec3m m\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 y\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd gi\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 m\u1ecdi m\u1eb7t. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u00ecn \u0111i \u0111\u00e2u \u0111\u00f3 xa x\u0103m thay v\u00ec nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i quan tr\u1ecdng tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft.<\/p>\n

Kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft r\u00fat kinh nghi\u1ec7m<\/strong><\/p>\n

M\u1ed7i sai l\u1ea7m \u0111\u1ec1u ph\u1ea3n \u00e1nh m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n, n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n t\u00ecm ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng.<\/p>\n

N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n s\u1ee3 m\u1eafc sai l\u1ea7m, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kinh nghi\u1ec7m. Sai l\u1ea7m l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 thi\u1ebfu trong vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ee3 m\u1eafc sai l\u1ea7m s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 m\u1edbi s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00ec nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c \u0111ang l\u00e0m v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec3m m\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 y\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd gi\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 m\u1ecdi m\u1eb7t. T\u01b0 duy c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ecbnh Ti\u1ebfn s\u0129 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc Carol Dweck \u0111\u01b0a ra m\u1ed9t l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed1i l\u1eadp gi\u1eefa t\u01b0 duy ti\u1ebfn th\u1ee7 v\u00e0 t\u01b0 duy c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ecbnh. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ec9 tin r\u1eb1ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10040,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[412],"tags":[834,427,431,486,487],"class_list":["post-10038","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-tinh-yeu-hon-nhan","tag-bi-quyet-song","tag-tam-su","tag-tam-su-gia-dinh","tag-tydaikho-tam","tag-tydaikho-vn"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/demo.vnno1.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10038","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/demo.vnno1.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/demo.vnno1.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/demo.vnno1.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/demo.vnno1.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10038"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/demo.vnno1.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10038\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/demo.vnno1.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10040"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/demo.vnno1.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10038"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/demo.vnno1.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10038"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/demo.vnno1.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10038"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}